Rape, a heinous crime, (well who doesn’t know it), makes me ask just a few thousand questions. What is the motive behind a rape?? What does the culprit get out of the barbaric act?? What is a psychology of a rapist?? Is it a power play?? Is it a way to vent out frustration and anger?? Asserting control and dominance over a physically weaker being, what has 'he, a man' been trying to prove over years?? What is a rapist's childhood like?? What was the role of a woman in his life?? How was/is his wife, sister, daughter like? Did he hate women since his growing years so much that he tried to take revenge on them through raping every other woman?? What triggers committing of a rape?? And many more…..
All I understand is that it is the weak and the insecure who tries to dominate and hungers for power. It is the weak who is not at peace. So, how can this weaker being suppress an actually strong person who has no ill-intentions?? There is certainly no pleasure in something like rape. Unless your partner is happy how can you derive happiness or pleasure out of that physical intimacy?? Can rehabilitation help these mentally sick beings?? Can getting them spiritually-inclined help them?? Can any baba, guru or God help them transform?? Have these rapists ever said a prayer?? Can these animals be transformed into being human?? Can this humiliating behaviour on their part be pardoned?? Why do we not punish them twice as brutally so as to set the right example?? 'Kshama’ or excusing them is a crime. Letting them roam freely is a crime, which brings as much disgust as the crime itself.
I was in college when I first heard the word 'mindfuck'. I understand the meaning of it today. Every evening when your concerned parents ask you to get back home before dark, you know it's a mindfuck. You retaliate but you know they are right. You curse being born in a country which is hypocrite about respecting women. Every time you walk on the street, you have to be alert of who's walking next to you, behind you, ahead of you, what if a car stops and pulls you in it, what if someone brushes past you inappropriately in a crowded public transport, what if, what if, what if…..
Now that 'what if' day in and day out is a mindfuck. This morning I was travelling in the women's compartment of the metro like any other day. A handbag of a woman standing right behind me touched me. I almost turned back in fury. Such was the degree of my scare and insecurity. A handbag of a woman in the women's compartment of a metro scared me. Un believable?? No. This is the kind of fright women of this country live in.
Courtesy: The great rapist clan of India.
Under the nose of seat of power such acts are committed and what will the AAM AADMI (Mango people, as he says- yes, the National son in law- Mr Vadra) do?? Candle light marches?? Ask 'Am I just a body'?? Some mighty politicians ask for hanging the accused in 30 days. Why 30 days?? This can't be tolerated for even 30 minutes. Why are the police allowing these rapists to cover their faces? Unmask them, demands India. I don't want a fast track courts but public hanging of such………s(exactly), and I run out of words to define them. They outrage the modesty and see this Delhi Incident..!! Are we still going to swallow this silently?? If they can't be handled by law then, animal laws must apply to these rapists. There should be fear in their mind before doing it.
Why pray for the girl?? Why should she survive?? Do we even know how to treat a girl who has faced what only she has?? And, you know what is funny..!! Some movie director will cash on the tragedy. What a shame!! She is courageous to wish for life and urging 'save me, I want to live'. 'This' is the strength of a woman only if some pseudo-men of this country would have a realisation. What was her fault?? She wasn't dressed inappropriately, she didn't invite attention, she was not drinking in a pub (as most hypocrites think doing these things mean an open invitation..”RAPE ME. I am here and like this for being RAPED”), she only wanted to get home to her family. Is that a crime???
I wonder if there is actually a God, if prayers mean anything at all. I wonder why we worship 'Shakti'. Faith and hope are losing their meaning. Humanity is long lost too. Not proud, but ashamed to be an Indian today. My brain harps on Amitabh's dialogue from 'Sarkar'..” soch ko maaro.” Yes, kill the thought. The thought of rape needs to be killed.
Mind you…!!!! It’s not about the time of the day or night. While curiosity is one of the major reasons why rapes happen, 'I can get away with it' attitude is another major factor that leads to the disgusting attempt of rape, I suppose.
I remember my mother telling me 'don't smile or laugh on the road' when we shared a joke. She said it attracts attention and thus, you must not show your happiness. As a young girl I thought what is this world I live in? A world where being happy is a crime. I wore suits to my dance classes and my mother would not let me step out if my “dupatta”was wrapped around my neck.
I could not believe that there were rules to wearing a simple Salwar Kameez, all thanks to Indian men.
• Here are the 3 reasons why men rape:
'I can get away with it' attitude, the weak judicial system and us, the society who sits pretty not making noise when these culprits are pardoned by the system. We are as powerful as any government in power. We are the people: the voice of the country; they are because of us not us, because of them.
• The way we bring up a male child in our society. Parents and schools are at fault for not teaching men how to cook and clean just as women, for telling them that there is a difference between a man and woman and their duties and responsibilities are different. When your father does not treat your mother right, speak up. When a brother does not treat his sister right, speak up. When a boyfriend does not treat his girlfriend right, speak up.
• Hunger for power over the weaker: this is only human nature. Everyone from Akbar to the Alexander loved power, so do these rapists. If you truly wish to experience power, exercise power over your 'Indriyaan' or exercise self-control. Only weak try and control others, the strong exercises self-control.
There is still a lot to talk about RAPE. Alas...Not worth the effort..!!! I have still not talked about the victim. What about her life, her dreams, her future and her experiences..?? Oh, I am scared to imagine that..!! May it never happen to any girl..!!
Hope Indian men understand this..!!
Love,
Utk..
